Trials and trivia..

Are all trials in America held in public?
I only ask because I caught a glimpse of MJs trial last night, and it all seemed a bit unsettling ( which is to be expected I suppose) but there's a part of me that thinks maybe it should have been held in private.. hmmm
These pictures in the Guardian may give a sense of the intensity of it all
Trial pics

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I wanted to write something funny about oxymoron's as I really love that word. I wondered if people could be oxymoron's, then realised that if someone says something like .. 'that man is a beast', or, 'that woman is a dog'.. these are oxymoron's right? ( I wanted to find more positive examples.. sorry folks:)
I have lazy evening brain after a hard days work:))

This may seem a bit anoraky but I'm in awe of this list
Celebrating the wonder of oxymorons

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I'm trying to strike a balance between being hard and soft. I'm way too soft at times I think (I know) I remember the saying, people often take kindness for weakness. It's a balancing act, but important to get right none the less.
It's a fact that we teach people how to treat us in that if you don't set boundaries, others may set them for you.
How is that played out?
They may treat you unkindly for the fun of it.. simply because they can.. or take ( what Catherine Tate likes to describe as) 'farkinliberties':)

When I work with communities I have a lot of empathy. That goes without saying. Yet I also realise that it's important not to replace responsibility, with excuses

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Sending lovely evening wishes to you allx