There are things we know, things we don't know, and things we don't know we don't know...
Or so it has been said
In coaching, it's said that a coachee may be better served if the coach avoids making assumptions, leading the conversation, telling the coachee what to do, attempting to display superior knowledge on a subject.. in short... Stays out of it.
And by staying out of it, I mean..keeping ones ego in check, not exploiting their position, and remembering...it's not about the coach... But the coachee.
In life,(outside of coaching) how often do we do that?. Often we talk to be heard.. less to be understood. Often we hear, but fail to really listen.
I have found that not being listened to... Underpins many complaints..
If you've ever not felt listened to, you may be able to relate to that..and understand just how frustrating it can be
Coaching relationships enable a person to speak and be heard..without being judged, and without being belittled by a Mr or Mrs know it all... who may know a lot, a little, or really don't know what they think they know, but just know they don't know what they don't know..they just can't work out what!
If only they could know what it is they don't know, so they could know it
Relax..I'm messing with you a little!
My point is simple
In the grand scheme of things, there is still so much 'we' don't know..even the most learned among us.
Knowledge can be found is the simplest of places.. places we may least expect.. Or people we may never have thought we could learn from.
There are times when we may need help to find answers, but that help may on occasion simply be...an unbiased ear.. and a silent mouth.
Reminds me of the old saying.. empty barrels make the most noise.
..and yet there are times when noise is exactly what you may need
*don't ask me why but I've been checking out a few of these today*