"You know, a law is a law, and there is this culture of ours that we have inherited. That our forefathers has been doing.and it has never harmed anyone, and now it has been criminalized, so it is unfair to us"
Have you ever wondered how the practice really came about?
Who ( can we assume..which man ) first decided it was a good idea.. a requirement?
I think that rather than the (almost) fixation and questions on what is cut, and how.. I'm quite keen on the question.. why?.
In my opinion, It's no longer enough to cite 'it's a generations old ceremony', it's a practice handed down by our forefathers' etc..without question.
Yes, there are different types of cutting, so not all with remove the clitoris, but often that is the case.
Reasons given for this practice vary.. e.g
1. Curbing/controlling sexual desire in women and girls
2. Men who are raised in, and agree with this practice, will not marry 'uncut girls' ( severely impacting on the income that a girl would ( on marriage) bring in to her family
3. In sewing up the vaginal area, it prevents the woman from having sex with any man other than her husband, who will penetrate her regardless of the pain ( he can either cut the stitches away or use his penis to force his way through)
4. Some men prefer the feeling.
5. A recent reason I've been given is.. It looks nicer
Do you know, Many women after childbirth, request to be sewn up again, as it feels odd to them to not be. Some say they feel exposed..loose.
Is it ever right to observe the cultural practices of people and seek to change it?
History tells us no.
A change nonetheless that would require an entire shift in the way women and girls are viewed and treated, in certain regions, and would surely require families source their income elsewhere.
There are those who will argue that if you ban female circumcision then male circumcision should be banned also.
I don't agree with that argument, one reason is simply because, a circumcised male will still enjoy sex ( possibly even more so ) and the act of circumcision on a male has few long term health related complications (If any), and is not about power, domination, and control.
Yet there's a twist in the tale..
Ironically, here in the 'West' a similar practice is becoming increasingly popular. It's not cheap, and it's given a cute sounding name..it's called Vaginoplasty. But it's cutting none the less..
Western Culture.. perhaps not so different after all
If someone loves you, I promise you that they will love and enjoy you.. regardless of what your fanny looks like.
In that short film above, this was about marriage- as- business.. Love.. (in it's modern guise) wasn't mentioned once.
My question ( if i have one) is.. exactly what does marriage mean .. to you?..and
Is love.. as important as I say it is?