Had a nice evening out with a friend last night and the subject of trust came up.
I barely slept last night and up early (ish) this morning
When so called friends betray you, it can be one of the worst experiences. For someone to breach a trust that was established, or bond you felt you had, often leaves one with many questions, and always more questions than answers.
When you discover the extent of the lies, and you realise how just long they were lying for it's even worse. To know that those same people may even pride themselves on being truthful, and demand honesty and openness from others is almost laughable.
To witness how badly they behave if they feel they've been wronged, and hear of the the accusations they make, (which in truth is often just projected guilt) is disgusting.
But you learn that it's not uncommon, and the extent of betrayal always varies. Could be minor, could be major
I think what hurts most is the intent.
Sometimes it's deliberate.. and you wonder.. hmmmm
Anyway, it was nice to be able to clear the air
At one point I think I may have looked a bit perplexed as my friend simply said..
'people should choose better friends.. at the very least.. choose friends they can trust'
That was funny
I don't know anyone who seeks out, or desires friends they can't trust ( unless they're a bit 'sadomasochistic' - so to speak) but even if they are, they should just be upfront about it from the very beginning.
I think when you meet people, or at least when you seek out someone to elicit a friendship from them, be honest about who you are. That way you give the person the option of whether to build a friendship with you or not, they know what they're getting.
They know whether to take you seriously or not, and whether they're required to keep a guard up , or not. They can make an informed decision.
Otherwise it's deceitful
But it says a-lot about the deceiver
I don't know anyone who is always totally truthful myself included, ( don't believe me?.. how many times has someone asked you how on are on a day that you feel like crap and you say/.. 'oh i'm fine thank-you!.. and smile for good measure lol) but some take it by far to a whole LOWER level
* I think most people like friends who they know that whatever happens... they're got their back.. even if they fall out from time to time. Frienenemies need not apply
But as my friend said.. you either sort it or forgive it and forget it
Enjoy your day all x