I dont usually earsdrop. Honestly, I don't'. I usually have a way of 'zoning out'.
But last night it was a little hard not to as this small group of very English sounding students were not quiet. In fact, they were talking VERY loudly indeed, about which University they should go to, and what the students in each are like. According to them, the students at SOAS are much nicer than at Kingston...and the students at Oxford mess around way too much. On the plus side it was said, only 25% at Oxford are reported to be heterosexual. which meant according to one that the majority , if not gay.. are open to anything.
'Which is GREAT!' he said.
Is it?.. I wondered.
It is true that the 'norms' around sex, sexuality and sexual conduct.. have changed significantly.. correct me if i'm wrong.. but I do think the current trend to be as sexually outrageous as one can be.. once explored enough times, may actually become quite boring indeed.
I say trend because like alcohol, if your not seen to be drinking it ( no pun intended) one may be viewed as boring, repressed, or simply not fun.
In my experience , there are many who use sex to mask pain. Not all ( of course not all) but for those who do, it can be a temporary fix, as what is really sort, is often a connection much deeper than just sex.
Sorry to be 'wet' about it ( again no pun intended..) but what is truly sort is.. Love
Yeah... I said it.
The young man at the bus stop sounded as though he had been programmed to say what he said.
(..and if you observe the way in which current media social networks etc..operate, you may deduce it as a form of programming.)
Anyway, From an outsiders perspective it didn't seem authentic. But I could be wrong.
What is somewhat bothersome with a small 'b' is that heterosexuality' is almost ( among some) being frowned upon as though it's somehow 'unnatural'.
But tell me this....
Why is being open to anything okay..?
Is it okay to be open to experimenting with any drugs'.. violence.. crime?..
and.. where( if anywhere) do we draw the line.
I don't want to bring Rolf Harris ( and others of his ilk) into this but was he not open too?
Being sexually out there is not new. Group sex orgies and 'bisexuality' have been taking places for centuries.. and so much more.. (I'm told) What is new however.. Is the way sex is being re-packaged and re-sold to us.. as the new BIG thing
Is it?.. I wonder..