Sunday 12 October 2014

What is revenge porn?

Well apparently it's the name given to sexually explicit photos taken during a relationship and later exposed by the ex if, or rather, when, the relationship fails.[click]

There has been an increase in reported cases in the UK apparently, and even my much loved Fally was caught up in a 'revenge porn' scandal involving Samuel Eto 'o's ex (mistress) and explicit photos of her that emerged online, ruining her career.

For some time the question of who did it?.. and why? bubbled away.. Was it Fally? or was it Samuel..? . The trail appears to leading straight to Samuel [click] But who knows.. I hate to gossip...


Picture source - news2.onlinenigeria.com

So.. taking sexually explicit pictures is clearly a risk. If the person you're with is not your husband ( I think this affects women mainly.. I mean..who cares about a little dick pic..) it's probably best not to do it.

Even with your husband ladies, there are no guarantees that he will remain your loving husband ( I hope he will i'm just saying) or that he wont do something spiteful to hurt you if you upset him, or worst yet.. threaten to leave him. So you really just gotta play it by ear and hope you know your man!

I think the best way to deal with such a move should it ever happen.. ( and lord knows I hope that I, and you, never have to) is to...
1. Scream
2. Cry your eyes out
3. Tell the cops
4. Tell your'people' (selected family and friends)
5. Tell your employers ( hmm actually.. seek advice on that!)
6. Hibernate
7. Emerge.. and say... yeah?.. and? so what?... was it me anyway? ... and try your absolute best to style it out
8. seek counselling if no 7 fails.
9. Cry some more
10. Pray that time really is a healer

I think it reflects much worse on the them than it would on you anyway
They would have showed themselves up to be real scumbags

I know that I've written this in a very light hearted way, but I can only imagine it could be utterly devastating.. a real breech of privacy. So I'm sorry if it has happened to you without your consent (you too men.. you too)

2 comments:

  1. Revenge porn has to be devastating. I can't imagine what it must be like. It's best not to have the photos taken in the first place. I hope that you have had a good weekend and that the week is great! I'm going to go back now and catch up on your posts. Take care, my friend!

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    1. I agree.. best not to take them.. especially if the man is really really keen for you to do so!.. If he's too into it.. he's probably done it before anyway.. so doubt it will be that special.. just another girl in a pic?
      Weekend has been okay Fundy.. had more on my mind than I realized :).
      Hope you've had a good one. Now its on with the week ahead!!

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