Saturday 13 October 2018

Weekend WOW Factor: Kanye. How to meet a President

I've no idea what's going on with Kanye West.
This clip is something else, and Trumps face.. is priceless.

Kanye said something about not having his father around which was quite moving.. in fact he said so much that it's almost as if he's been holding so much in and now it's all bursting out

It's wrong to say that only someone mentally ill would support Trump, ( plus many did when he was a 'mere businessman') so we can't assume that he is mentally unwell just because of his love for Trump, but based on his current behaviour, it's possible that he's slightly out of balance from the creative genius Kanye we've come to know and love.
We need to give him a break..
Cocky Kanye was kinda cool, but he seems kinda vulnerable currently
President Trump can be quite funny times, and one thing they both have in common, is they are extremely confident people.

So how does Any meet a President?
With enthusiasm, accolades and adulation, adulation, adulation


Meeting President Kagami

Tips for meeting President Kagami? not too much eye contact, and please get to the point!. In fact' that's exactly what the President said. I could tell he was losing patience when his leg started twitching.
Funny, he's always kinda scared me... but he looked so much like Obama from the back and his voice was so high and soft, that he actually came across a lot less intimidating.
Advice from Kagami?... be confident... (and don't waste my time!) :)


Why is President Buhari playing with his hands so much?
I tend to do that if nervous or he nervous or uneasy?
To be honest Kanye and Trump seem to have more rapport than these two

'and err, how did you do with the young women that were kidnapped.. how is that going?'
direct and straight to the point. Kagame would be proud of the directness of that question

How to meet President Buhari
Look at him, and ask how he's getting on with the women that were kidnapped. Then, an hour later... once he's answered your question:) give him a big hug, and tell him you'll send him a message via WhatsApp.


There are already a A few murmuring's about Barrow's Presidency I've been reliably informed.
Anyway, How best to meet him?
Don't look directly in his eyes lol!
To be honest, I can barely hear what he's saying.. he has distractingly handsome eyes (when sitting down)
I simply can't deal with that... huh?!..what did he just say??? :)

Okay, let me try again....
:) nope, stil distracted..heehee.


Here's Obama speaking to a predominantly female audience with ease.
How to greet Obama?, like an old friend ( you think you know), with an easy confidence, and get ready for some jokes..


This remains a favourite of mine.
Classic Obasanjo
How do you meet ex President OBJ?
With a smile (and your tongue FIRMLY in your cheek)

Someone once told me I could talk my way out of a paper bag, but OBJ, this ex President of Nigeria is in a league of his absolute Don.
Teach me teacher... and I'll have the keys to the kingdom
'Steve...did he mention Obassanjoooooooooour..' lol!

K - Man - Uman Lapa

Wednesday 10 October 2018

African First Ladies

Sometimes I feel for them o.

Being married to a man who becomes President must come with some trials in addition to the benefits.
But Janet Museveni.
Janet Janet Janet. 1st lady of Uganda, how I feel for her on this

Husbands eh, why don't they listen?. Try anyway... talk to your husband Janet.
Did anyone else see the clip of the president spitting into a tissue in public, at a Press conference?..on the world stage?.

I'm sure she can't have been too pleased about that

The look of love..heehee

Yuck! Yuck! Yuck!

Where is the Presidential decorum?
Putting aside Bobby Wine....If that doesn't cost him a few votes from the ladies I don't know what will

Anyway... dinner time? :)

Let's Talk Mental Health

Today has marked World Mental Health Day

There remains a stigma attached to poor mental health in African Caribbean communities, and despite the fact that one in four people across the board will experience poor mental health at some point in their lives, it remains something we rarely talk about.

"According to, African-Caribbean people in the UK are three to five times more likely to be diagnosed and admitted to hospital for schizophrenia, compared to other ethnic groups. According to the 2014 Survey of Mental Health and Wellbeing by the  Adult Psychiatric Morbidity Survey, white British people were the ethnic group most likely to report receiving treatment compared with around 7 per cent of people in minority ethnic groups (including White non-British). Black adults had the lowest treatment rate, at 6.2 per cent".[click for more]

A report in 2010 stated that 'the effects of social disadvantage, such as high unemployment, poor housing and experiences of racial discrimination, are considered to negatively impact the mental health of African-Caribbeans', yet despite that, remain the least likely to seek help.

Within African Caribbean communities mental health is often misunderstood, added to that, a distrust of government services, African Caribbean communities have tended more towards self reliance, inward looking, and often dismiss issues with phrases such as 'sort yourself out', 'be a man' or 'man up' (if you're a man) or simply, 'get over it'.
Some however, may turn to the church, whilst others may even see issues as a result of witchcraft.

Yet plainly put, it's ok to talk.
To encourage our men to talk when pressures become overwhelming, and see poor mental health, not as a weakness, but increasingly an outcome of our modern stressful times.
Understand that women do need to talk, without the dismissive trope of 'nagging woman'

Rephrasing mental health certainly helps, so words such as 'stressed' are understood by men, and emotional well being connects well with women.

Regardless, as we recognise World Mental Health Day, let us practice being kinder, to ourselves... and to each other x

Saturday 6 October 2018

Sound Sultan - Naija Jungle

Boubacar Traoré & Ali Farka Touré - Duna Ma Yelema &Habib Koite and Bamada.

KANDIA KORA - La Guinée Guinè

Weekend Wow Factor: On Love

Congratulations to a man I admire so much
Dr Denis Mukwege

If you don't of him, he is the founder director of the Panzi Foundation, whose work on repairing women who have experienced rape and serious sexual assaults in the DRC, has earned him the Nobel Peace Prize 2018.

I don't think any of us can really image the horrors that these women have experienced, amidst a war that seemingly has no end.
This is a man who has dedicated much of his life to repairing and restoring these women, to enable them to begin to rebuild their lives, and to live.

This to me is what a ladies man is. A man who truly loves and respects women.
A lady's man is not a playboy.
No, a ladies man, is a man like Dr Mukwege.

Congrats to Nadia also..


There is a meme going around of a woman wearing what looks like a very cheap engagement ring. The question posed to us women is; 'if a man presents you with this would you say yes?'.
90% of comments are from men who say that, this is why men won't commit blah blah, but if they stopped to read the comments from the women they would have noticed the 90% of them said simply - yes.
You see, when a truly woman loves, she loves.
What she really wants is his time, his love, his commitment and his protection.
No one can live without money in today's society ( money is sweet o ) but men are mistaken if they believe that it is all a woman wants.


Holy Moly Beyonce's mum, steady on :).
I've watched this a few times and I have to say that when a woman has been hurt in the past and is still healing, it's not an easy ride.
The look on his face here is priceless..

Are women looking for Mr Perfect? I don't think so
Women (and men) have long since known that 'one man's meat is another man's poison'. perfection subjective, perfection no exist.
Women want someone who is just right for them, someone who tries, who is honest and kind, but mostly someone whose love is felt, and whose love is genuine.


I've watched episodes of this back to back over the past few days
90day fiance Nigerian style.
It's funny, gross, entertaining, interesting.. kinda sad too
Watch one and I bet you'll want more too!...


One of the worst things you can do when raising a little girl is to deny her her voice.
I say a little girl because it is often not the same for boys. Sometimes it is but often it isn't.
Lets raise our boys to be more tender, and our girls to be confident.

In my Che outfit..