Monday 31 December 2018

Happy Blogging Birthday ! - Because It Matters x

It was this day, eight years ago, that I started the Because It Matters Blog.
New Years Eve 2010.

As I enter my 9th year it's fair to say, that I had no idea at the time if I'd have the stamina for it... but I knew from the very beginning that I had the energy, the love, and enjoyed it immensely.

Further evidence, should anyone need it, that when you do something you truly love...energy fuels momentum - fuels inspiration



There are many variations of Blogging. Some pictorial, others mainly the written word, and then there are video Blogs.
I love to write, but It's nice to mix it up
For my Blogging birthday, I'll be doing something else that I love, have not yet mastered, and keep putting down and starting over...

Yes you've guessed it.... gardening.!

I've a bit of a mountain to climb , having neglected it all year, but I intend to climb it anyway. I started yesterday and believe it or not, made great progress , so now instead of a dense jungle, it just looks like a neglected garden now.

Before



Yep... as you can see.. it's a lot of work

Funnily enough, I get a lot of pleasure when I do it myself, although the temptation to pay someone to do it has crossed my mind.... until I googled landscape gardener. uhum... ok... not yet

I'll keep a record of my progress, as that'll help me to stay motivated .. and stick with it, and really learn this skill

Anyway, I bought a new rake, some grass sees and some flower bulbs. The latter is the icing on the cake as the real work is in the clearing.

I digress!.... I was celebrating my Blogging Birthday.





What initially started as a bit of a diary, ended up becoming a mix of social commentary and music reviews, so I'm very pleased that in my tagline, I knew it's purpose even if I wasn't entirely as clear.
I'm pleased I've remained consistent over the years, and my passion has not dimmed



I have a better understanding of what it means to be a Diasporan of African descent, and still occasionally wring my hands at the fact that despite access to so much information, we still remain ignorant and divided in some areas
But.... more to Blog about I guess.
My passion was cemented when completing my Masters..
Now it's a light that just keeps shining

Keep your heads up 'Middle Passage Survivors'. Whether your destination was the Americas or the Caribbean....
I see you!
Keep pushing on.. claim your birthright, your land, and your legacy
I'm grateful to continue to learn with each passing day




One of the 1st poems I ever wrote was Because it Matters.. (you can read it at the base of the blog somewhere).

I still stand by it.

So I thought, what can I write today, before I get started on my back garden

What is on my mind??

Other than the fact that I've never been a fan of old years night/ or New Years Eve, however you wanna put that.... this was a passing thought....

We are not merely what we think we are
we are so much more
it is our job to find out what that is
and become it
to express gratitude once found
and bless others along the way

I'm of course, thankful to you, my readers, and hope you continue to enjoy your visits, and the music promoted on this Blog


I wish you all a Happy New Year x

Saturday 29 December 2018

Freddie McGregor - Go Freddie Go

Weekend WOW Factor ; On Inspirational Men

Aside from Ben Murray - Bruce, all of the other speakers are each playing a prominent role in the upcoming elections in Naija.

Fela Durotoye is the presidential candidate of the ANN ( Alliance for New Nigeria). Kingsley Moghalu is the presidential candidate for the YPP ( Young Progressive Party), and

Perter Obi, is the PDP candidate for vice President

Peter Obi, I must say is growing on me.
Ive watched and listened to him a few times now, and he comes across as very intelligent, with an endearing 'open' quality about him.
His business acumen is admirable, and as a result, there will be many who will vote for the PDP even if they're not in favour of Atiku ( for President).

All are articulate men, who have achieved a great deal in their respective fields, and their desire to give back and inspire others is really encouraging.

Nigerians have real options in the 2019 elections.
Almost spoilt for choice.









Thursday 27 December 2018

What songs in 2018 pt 1.

It's that time of year when a rundown of some of the tracks that have moved me take centre stage

So many this year ( as always) but some artists have really blossomed
I'll feature a few over the coming days

One such is Adekunle Gold

His About 30 album is full of gems, but years before, and since, his heartfelt songs are filled with tales of faith hope and love
When i like an artist it's a joy to be able to play her earlier tracks.. and find a common thread
These were among my playlist this year
Authentic

All good





Simi's album was outstanding from beginning to end

but I'll knock 3 birds with one stone here... enter Fally and Sauti






Burna Boy




Yep... Clarence Shot IT

Teni - Uyo Meyo

Wednesday 26 December 2018

Do You Love Lush Bath Bombs ?

Why is it that if I start to watch a film I fall asleep... but if I go to bed to sleep, I cannot?

My gifts from my babies this year were perfume, bath bombs, scented candle, and all sorts of lovely things for the bath
Either they're telling me I smell.... or they want me to relax

Either way.... problem solved x

It's actually just what I wanted....
I need to pamper myself more....

Enjoy my femininity... lest I forget I'm a girl



I don't think there's a shop in Westfield that smells as sweet as Lush.... I love it
Ok... I've put my Pixy suit away now....

Is the DRC To Rich For Peace?

Elections are scheduled to take place in the DRC this weekend. It's possible they'll be delayed again.
Kabila may want to hold on to power, but with protests against his stronghold, Ebola, and the ongoing war in the East, I'm not entirely sure why he would want to.
He did agree to set down after his second term.....
So what's up?



Perhaps he's being aided by neighbours Uganda and Rwanda, as the country remains an international honeypot

But a country is not family inheritance
Or is it?...
England..... heehee.

Kabila's second term actually ended two years ago.. but a tweak in the constitution, has seen him remain as President.

I'm not sure who could possibly take over, or for that matter, what changes for the better can be made.. it's a quagmire...
and he world is not hungry for it.

Why is the DRC so easy to forget?
Is the country simply too rich for peace?

Buhari Presents His 2019 Budget and The Crowd Boo.

What a drama!
Can you believe the unruly behaviour of these senators?
Not even the prayers, both muslim and christian, were respected, much less the President
'Freedom come by struggle by struggle.. Freedom come..' some sang

In truth , are these senators really struggling?
Most are overweight despite saying they're hungry, and the allowances they receive on top of their salaries are really very generous.[click]

As Buhari completed his address and sat back, I wondered what he could be thinking... as the jeers and disarray continued.




He's used to it. He expects it. He knows them...very, very, well.

Buhari...'we have done more work with less resources in agriculture, infratstructure, and social investments'

'Lie lie lie...'.

Buhari...'..the economy has recoved from recession. '
'Nooooo'

In an attempt to scold these unruly fellows, Buhari told them to remember the world is watching.. and that they are supposed to be above that

Lie... no.. it's not true' someone shouted
I had to laugh out loud at that one
Funny stuff.

There are people who blame the state of the nation on Buhari... yet you really have to wonder..
If these are the men in control of their respect states.... can they really be trusted to act with maturity, dignity, and integrity?

They are practically uncontrollable.
Perhaps it was just down to the excitement of being in the presence of the President, however... it certainly wasn't boring!.
It's a tough job indeed. who would really want it?

You have to hand it to him. Like him or not....there is something about Buhari.
Pretty cool, in the midst of a carnival....





Some Xmas Day Pics

Longday, but a good day anyway, All enjoyed the food x









Monday 24 December 2018

Duncanmighty -MieKeRaSo

" Amina.. girl innocent.. she no dey lek com out.. she no dey like to take anything whe get alcohol... eh heh"

Looking Forward To The Big Cook

Gearing up for full cooking mode. Ive delegated the preparation of 'stuffing' to my young lady... and plan to get a few hours sleep/rest.. before starting early in the am.
This year I'll be cooking for mum and bro also... but all the prep and most of the cooking I'll be doing before I get there... so there'll be no shenanigans.. of 'Dawna add this' , or 'add that'
I know my seasonings.. and they have to trust it'll be tasty.

Think i'll knock up an apple crumble for desert too.. hmmmm yummy!




Funnily enough in thinking about everyone else.. I actually forgot to buy fish
So it'll be a quick trip to the shops.. not even gonna drive, just jump on a bus and get back pronto, so I can relax and enjoy my day




I've been enjoying these intelectual debates so much!
I love when people are passionate about what they believe in
It actually inspires others to excel in their own

These ladies are doing a nice job too :)

A look at another Presidential candidate...



Interesting....



Youtube analytics keeps me up at times.. so much interesting stuff keeps popping up on my sidebar :0



Driving home with the full moon last night...





Saturday 22 December 2018

Weekend WOW Factor. Omoyele Sowore.




Born 16th February 1971, Omoyele Sowore was born into a polygamous family of 16 siblings.
Raised in Ondo state, Omoyele attended the University of Lagos.

A one time student union activist, Omoyele fought against cultism and corruption, and was also active in the struggle for democracy from military rule



In 2006 Omoyele started Sahara Reporters in a small room, from the United States, with the intention of exposing corrupt officials and government malpractice.

Sahara Reporters has been a powerhouse of African Journalism and reporting, but Omoyele has raised the bar even further, by announcing his intention to is run for president of Nigeria in February this year, and by August, formed and registered his own party; AAC .

The African Action Congress was recently excluded from the recent Presidential debates, despite its growing prominence across the county.

Omoyele is a force to be reckoned with, and no matter what happens , this is one of the most impressive displays of vision, integrity, and action seen for some time.

This interview has done the rounds, and many have been taken aback with the ease in which his is both outspoken and factual.



Like Fela before him, it was his time spent outside of Nigeria, notably in the US, that strengthened his awareness and resolve, and gave him the kind of clarity and insight that sets men apart

Humble, hardworking, 'fearless' and handsome, Omoyele has the ability to communicate well with people across ethnic lines, nationally and internationally... and has a sense of humour despite the seriousness of his ambitions

One of the problems he faces is what's known as 'stomach infrastructure'.
It has become a staple of political activity and vote rigging. 'Stomach infractstuture' is where people will vote for whoever pays them. It's not exclusive to Nigeria, no, we have seen instances of political vote buying across the continent, with votes going for as little as a bag of rice.

I've seen the disappointed faces as he's toured various states, and not handed out 'favours'.

72% of eligible voters didn't vote in 2015, over 59% of adults in Nigeria are illiterate, so the struggle is that the ability to tap into the amidst of people who will not be reading lengthy manifestos, and are accustomed to short term gains of small amounts of money.. is no easy task.

There is a change on the horizon win or lose.
Omoyele has raised over $100.000 on gofundme, still not much compared to the dominant parties, however, there is still time.

The questions are, do Nigerians deserve an Omoyele?.. are they ready?.
Does the average man or woman really want change, or even believe it possible?

Despite the increase in social and economic inequality, there are many who would like things to remain as they are, as the status quo benefits many.
But Omoyele is cut from a different cloth.
Integrity may not be the norm in political life , but it's certainly something to aspire to
It helped Buhari win against Jonathan... now....can Omoyele, as the 'ranked outsider'....unseat the formidable Buhari?
We shall see.... yes, we shall see..

Merry Xmas everyone! x

Beautiful song

Saturday 15 December 2018

Weekend WOW Factor - Women Standing Tall

It has rained all day
I don't mind the rain so much, but it's soooo cold lol
My little fingers nipping even in my pockets, when undeterred, I ventured to the market in pursuit of veg.

Did my maintenance even though I broke my nails past few weeks so they now need time to grow back

Cooked, cleaned, went to see mum, ( didn't get out in the garden) and picked up Ti's xmas gift as he'll be off back to sunny Oz soon

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Anyway... this was interesting
Nigeria's Vice Presidential Debate

Not sure how they selected the parties that would take part outside of the two main parties.. but a debate is a great way to go... after all... who doesn't love a Presidential debate :)

Khadijah... candidate of the ANN ( Alliance for New Nigeria) lost the moment she took the stage.. as she bowed to her male opponents.
big no no ... someone should have told her

I guess if you take on board the cultural context of Nigeria with regards to the normalized role of women ( which is why she bowed) , massive respect to the women, who were able to get up and stand alongside these men regardless, and say their piece.
Khadijah is not yet ready.. having said that... still more ready than the man alongside her ... ( Ganiyu Galadima, APCN candidate )
A comment says he belongs in the other room.. ( as made famous by Buhari) or perhaps that was just in my mischievous mind. heehee

The rolling comments were even more engaging the the debate.. :)

Good for Khadijah anyway, she was nervous, not well prepared, and possibly battles with confidence , yet she tried.. got out of her comfort zone, and next time she will be much better


The remaining three each held their own. Peter Obi of the PDP tried to blind us with numerical science.. suspect his figures were incorrect, but who had the time to check them?... no-one!

Prof Osinbanjo remained calm and blamed the PDP, as after all.. he's in office now
but the one that stood out for me was Umma Getso, of the YPP ( young progressives party)
I like her style


On imports...Why is Nigeria importing toothpicks???

Ultimately, they were all asked a different question which makes comparison difficult
Fun to watch tho

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Over in London
Theresa May - strong woman



Why does ex PM Tony Blair sound like a calming voice in a storm?



Anyway, think I'll just relax now

Ready to eat.... again :)



Hmmm I wonder what would happen if there was a new referendum...
Lower turnout I suspect..people are Brexit weary



Monday 10 December 2018

Men & Mental Health

Work today had me pondering this issue.. so here are three Interesting videos, 1st one set in London Uk, 2nd the U.S..3rd in London again.



This talk is very informative..



I think many of us have a clearer understanding of the why's, the challenge is turning it around for the better.
Multifaceted and complex it may be, but whilst we work on our cultural pathologies, we need to ignite the desires of all, including institutions and businesses, to identify and work on our social pathologies

Identifying the problem, raising awareness, committing to building a better society for all. x

Twinkling Lights and Smiles All Round. ft Music by LAX

This time of year seems to really bring out the best in people.
Out and about today doing a bit of shopping I noticed something quite sweet. I found myself assisting a few men who were panicking, saying their wife had sent them to buy a tree and wasn't sure if it was the right one!. Some called them on the phone to double check.. right height, right colour?

They may have felt out of their comfort zone, but their desire to get it right for their significant other was so sweet
Some had brought their children along, and their happy little faces as they shopped with dad was also proof that children..... absolutely love spending their parents money... lol!
I'm sure when they got home there were big smiles all round

I didn't get a new tree, but I have picked a new set of lights... as my tree is awaiting;)

Anyway, a new week beckons.. and it's goodnight from me x



Saturday 8 December 2018

Davido - Wonder Woman

Weekend WOW Factor - All is Politics

Been checking Theatre prices for Panto (yes I know, but it's not so much for me, but of the little ones..cough cough ..) and nearly chocked on my tea! Yikes!!




Anyway , it's a treat so..
hmmm.. I could use a few new outfits to cover the party season tho
Theatre or Top Shop... hmmmmm...

decisons decisions..



..

Its been awhile since I've undertaken an official course of study, and qualification, so I'm actually excited to be starting again next week. University of Liverpool this time .. distance study linked to my new role - more on that another time
Nice to be activating that part of the brain again.. despite the hard work to come

**

But wait..... did Barrow eat Jammeh?
this man was slim a year ago.. !



Anyway...

Aisha Buhari states that two men are blocking her husbands progress... hmmmm only two dear?



This is why it's always important to be mindful of your circle, however, I believe in Buhari's case, he simply chose from the pool around him... but... slowly over time, has become weakened to them
Political osmosis..

Jesus chose his 12 carefully, but even then .. many were found wanting when it mattered most
what he did do however, was stand in his power, and not become like them..

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So I've been following Omoyele Sowore's presidential campaign, and the director general of his party comes across well..
Yet his followers/supporters are becomming increasingly fanatical
that could be a problem
If anyone critiques Sowore.. his supporters come down hard on them like a ton of bricks, hurling insults and the likes

What will they do if the outcome is not what they hope for?
Will they attack supporters of others parties?
Or will they turn on him?
Will thuggery preside over next years elections?..
We will see.



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Here's a funny thought on political ideologies...

The problem with socialists... is they have no money
The irony being that capitalists by proxy, end up doing more for the people in their ability to generate jobs and capital.
A capitalist with a socialist heart.. sounds like a philanthropist
It's not what you have, but what you do with it
I guess It's a question of intent

[click]

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Here's a book I must read.. not heard of this man before



I heard about him via this speech





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Buju Banton has been released from jail, and returned to his beloved Jamaica.. and the fans rejoice
Not sure when Buju became a hero , but there you have it
Just wait, if he releases a bad tune, much of those same people will be calling for his return to jail!!
People are funny and we don't even realise
Spice of life
Welcome back Buju..
Be good



Anyway.. lots to do today.. there's even an Xmas party across the road from me.. mulled wine .. here I come

Happy Saturday!

Stay blessed, stay beautiful x


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Thursday 6 December 2018

On Submission . ft music from DJ Exclusive ft Duncan Mighty & Mafikizolo

Looking forward to the Xmas break




Ephesians

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.



Why do so many people mis-understand what 'submission' means in relation to male female relationships?
Or misquote, or select parts when leaving out the rest?

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I kinda want to throw my 2 pence in, but in very simplified terms
masculine and feminine states, are energy, often depicted as action and allowing.
So whereas feminine energy is often depicted as acts of kindness, caring , generosity, compassion etc...masculine energy is often depicted as doing, striving, making , using, hunting etc.
Both energies exists within us all. Our dominant energy may be heightened by our gender and early conditioning, but in life we are called to tap into both .
So it's virtually impossible to remain in one state for all times
e.g...If you're with your man and someone is kicking his head in, do you think what he needs is for you to hold his hand?... or run and seek help, or help yourself, call out.. anything.. just act!
If someone is hurting and instead of applying compassion, you bullishly handle the situation, it probably won't go down very well....

Knowing, or discerning, when to apply.. is probably the best advice
Though not easy, balance is the key, but even more than that, it's knowing who you are and who you are called to be at the core of your being... and that often takes time

If, as traditional scriptures tell us, the man is the head, then that implies leadership, and an ability to 'cover' the members of that house, to ensure as best as possible, their well being.
To do things which would shield them from harm.. right?

A true leader has vision, and doesn't need to insist upon gaining followers. people naturally gravitate to such people.
So a woman with a man that has the skills of leadership such as vision integrity and compassion etc, will easily submit to such a man. An untrustworthy man however, will naturally ignite the opposite in a woman, as she seeks to save herself ( and her kin) in the absence of the protection she desires.

There's a lot of woman bashing these days with regards to that.

Find what's right for you.. be equally yoked in terms of values , spirituality and that's a pretty good foundation on which to build.
The right person or people in your circle, will push you do do better.. encourage you to be your best self and higher.
They want the best for you even in those times when your self confidnece is waining. They check you, and call you out when you're wrong, and celebrate with you when you achieve.
Kings needs Queens and Queens need kings... often each one misunderstood if their vision surpasses that of those around them.

Before you build a house.. know how to build a home

Duncan Mighty...That voice tho... just lovely x



That was my 2 pence worth :)



Monday 3 December 2018

Femi Kuti on Aljazeera

'never look down on your audience.. you don't who's watching'

so true..

Femi is very articulate, and comes across as a very humble man

He could easily be justifiably angry, looking back on all that occurred with his father, grandmother and all, yet somehow, he has remained calm , clear, and optimistic
an inspiration


Sunday 2 December 2018

Dalton Harris Wins X Factor Gold

I haven't seen, or heard such an elegant X Factor winner in a while...congratulations Dalton

Looking outstanding in those super tight trousers and all....





and just like Christopher Martin, Putting the Caribbean, and Jamaica in particular, in the spotlight... again and again. Shine on!.. the world is your oyster





In the week, The United Nations, declared Reggae music, a global cultural treaaure
Reggae, that revolutionary music of love struggle and resilience, made by the loving and equally, the resilient

[click]

.. and so Dalton Harris has won arguably the biggest talent competition in the world, and the world is reminded that artists like Dalton are limitless.. and reggae simply cannot be contained







Never forget, Make love your goal



Tuesday 27 November 2018

You are amazing

People are amazing. Beautiful souls with ideas , hopes, talents and passions.
Yet increasingly, I've noticed a large number of people actually struggle to see themselves that way.

There is beauty in humility yes, but I'll go as far as to say that more often than not, in order to feel their own greatness, they (we) may seek the validation of others.



Perhaps too often, it's seeking permission to be themselves.
I understand that, as we all seek and benefit from positive feedback, unless we have a narcissistic personality..(yikes!)but what happens if that validation isn't forthcoming?. What happens if that validation is inauthentic, or tied to, too high a price?
Often times the result is suffering..a shattering of the ego, and a plummeting of self esteem.



I'm not sure if it's the rise of social media, but the ability to create an identity almost overnight, has resulted in extremely fragile identities, devoid of a strong foundation.

Pre social media identities were formed by our environment, culture ethnicity, gender/s, values, beliefs, all developed over time, as we grew, and experienced life.

Whilst thwart with contradictions, and arguably providing the building blocks of biases, prejudice and stereotyping, there was a feeling that it was something tangible, authentic , directive and on purpose accompanying those identity formations.
Post social media, and identities are shaped often by the creation of a persona which doesn't actually exist.

I see myself in others quite often these days. Sometimes I deliberately try to, other times, it's unplanned like a slap in the face, as I find myself learning more about myself everyday vicariously.

Clarity tends to come when you're able to step outside of your own experience, and walk in the shoes of another.
(Or, when you meditate)

There are numerous reasons people sometimes struggle to see their greatness, oftentimes some form of childhood trauma. Even if consciously we know that another person's limiting belief need not be ones own

'Go within, and you'll never go without'


So the dreams or goals you have, your achievements and ideas, they are yours.
The gifts you have, they are yours. God planted a seed in you as you were once a seed in your mother womb.
Your task is to nurture your seed, so it may grow.
Gloriously inviting others to do the same.



Gardeners rarely blame the seed if it fails to grow.
They consider the soil..the environment.
They ask themselves if they have planted the seed in an environment conductive for growth; heat, water, soil, light

If our blessings are like seeds, perhaps they are simply waiting to be nurtured in an environment
(us) that they may bear fruit.
So instead of waiting for others to do it for you, try your best to muster the strength to do it for yourself.
because it's yours , and you deserve it.

Build on them gradually, setting a strong foundation... on purpose.
We tend to have so many beliefs, many of them limiting, yet self belief is the belief that may actually trump all others


Sunday 25 November 2018

Good Morning

Happy Sunday x

Awake early, since 5.30 actually
I love early mornings.... even if I go back to bed
I love the peacefulness of it, and the quiet

I lost a bit of weight last year, perhaps starting year before, but it's coming back now. I have a preferred 'feel' weight, as I rarely weight myself, and it's around this mark. I really just go by how I feel in my clothes

Not the most important thing I know,
Just having a 'girly' moment


Saturday 24 November 2018

Where is Mugabe Now?

One year on since the leadership of President Mnanagagwa, and $53million has been set aside to compensate white farmers.



Mugabe's land reform policy was as unpopular( for some) as the transatlantic slave trade (for some) yet ironically the only compensation ever paid in the latter case, was paid to slave owners to compensate for their loss of 'capital'

Hmmmmm, can someone explain or redefine compensation for me?



Regardless, President Mnanagagwa has made the offer
The farmers however, feel that $53 million, is simply not enough [click]

..Be interesting to hear Malema speak on this

*On Dopplegangers*

Are you preparing for the holidays?

Ok, well today I watched a video on the propaganda surrounding President Buhari, or rather, the alleged 'fake Buhari' Jibril from South Sudan.

For those who don't know, it has been rumoured that the President is no more, and has been swapped with a man from South Sudan, Jibril.


Buhari




Most of us would scoff at the idea that anyone could fall for such propaganda, but the only reason I can think that anyone would give such a notion the time of day is ... history.

Former allegations that late President Umar Musa 'Yar'Adua, was 'gone' for 6 months before being actually declared so, during which time allegedly signing checks, could be the reason.
After which Goodluck Johnathan was sworn in as acting president before becoming elected President of the federal republic, some say presiding over the most corrupt administration the country has known. I don't agree neceasrily, but so some say.

This current debacle can only mean one thing... Elections are looming!
and the wolves are getting hungry

My own view is that at the time of Buhari's ill health, the nation would have been better served, at least morally, wishing him well, as regardlessness of whether one agrees with his leadership or not, bemoan his ethnicity or not, he is, by all intents and purposes, a man, a human being with a wife and children, and currently... the President elected by the people.

Wish him well... and fight fairly.

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Oddly enough. I do believe that Buhari stands a chance of winning next years 'Valentines election'. but despite coining it so, this will be no loving affair.

It's poised to be one of the most expensive elections, and most bitterly fought.

There are currently 68 registered political parties in Nigeria, in a population of about 120million.
Too many? I hear you say? perhaps, but with such a large divided population I guess it's understandable

Having said that of the 3 main parties, the two largest and most popular remain the APC, and the PDP, whose members interestingly enough seemingly have no problem switching sides when it suits.

One reason Buhari stands a chance is that many people stick with what they know, also, leaving aside his cabinet, he himself has not been accused of being corrupt.
Buhari entered office with the aim of fighting corruption, but to be honest, his body language says he's pretty fed up with his own country.

Buhari may have thought that the fight would be a straight forward one, but later realised its culturally insidious.

Perhaps the best way to fight such a fight is to establish an independent organisation outside of the country to sort it out for good, establish checks and balances, one which holds no culture bias or entanglement.
but hang on, wasn't the 1960 independence meant to be freedom from that?



Vice President
The 'very real' Osibanjo




Friday 23 November 2018

Weekend things

This time last year in Abuja



Happy weekend guys x



new music and the discovery of a new make up range I've got to try
thanks M

My goal for the weekend other than get rest is to do some work in the garden, and connect with nature
nice sweet and simple x





Thursday 1 November 2018

Catching Up With Flavour - Crazy Love (Feat. Yemi Alade & R2Bees ft WizKid - Supa

Happy busy days
I managed to finish a set of short stories, just editing them now. Been fun
Birthday season almost over, just my brother's pending this month before year end
Scorpio season right?

Just enjoying some music and winding down

As the clocks went back I found myself waking at 4.30am each day! settling back now enjoying the extra hour.
I'm definitely a morning person these days
Adore my new job, and my team

An artic breeze put a chill on London last week, but we're good, adjusting now as we do

Love this song too much x



and this .. hmmmm, yummy. yeah, so nice

WizKid - Fever

Saturday 13 October 2018

Weekend WOW Factor: Kanye. How to meet a President

I've no idea what's going on with Kanye West.
This clip is something else, and Trumps face.. is priceless.

Kanye said something about not having his father around which was quite moving.. in fact he said so much that it's almost as if he's been holding so much in and now it's all bursting out

It's wrong to say that only someone mentally ill would support Trump, ( plus many did when he was a 'mere businessman') so we can't assume that he is mentally unwell just because of his love for Trump, but based on his current behaviour, it's possible that he's slightly out of balance from the creative genius Kanye we've come to know and love.
We need to give him a break..
Cocky Kanye was kinda cool, but he seems kinda vulnerable currently
President Trump can be quite funny times, and one thing they both have in common, is they are extremely confident people.

So how does Any meet a President?
With enthusiasm, accolades and adulation, adulation, adulation



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Meeting President Kagami

Tips for meeting President Kagami? not too much eye contact, and please get to the point!. In fact' that's exactly what the President said. I could tell he was losing patience when his leg started twitching.
Funny, he's always kinda scared me... but he looked so much like Obama from the back and his voice was so high and soft, that he actually came across a lot less intimidating.
Advice from Kagami?... be confident... (and don't waste my time!) :)



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Why is President Buhari playing with his hands so much?
I tend to do that if nervous or uneasy.....is he nervous or uneasy?
To be honest Kanye and Trump seem to have more rapport than these two

'and err, how did you do with the young women that were kidnapped.. how is that going?'
direct and straight to the point. Kagame would be proud of the directness of that question

How to meet President Buhari
Look at him, and ask how he's getting on with the women that were kidnapped. Then, an hour later... once he's answered your question:) give him a big hug, and tell him you'll send him a message via WhatsApp.



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There are already a A few murmuring's about Barrow's Presidency I've been reliably informed.
Anyway, How best to meet him?
Don't look directly in his eyes lol!
To be honest, I can barely hear what he's saying.. he has distractingly handsome eyes (when sitting down)
I simply can't deal with that... huh?!..what did he just say??? :)




Okay, let me try again....
:) nope, stil distracted..heehee.



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Here's Obama speaking to a predominantly female audience with ease.
How to greet Obama?, like an old friend ( you think you know), with an easy confidence, and get ready for some jokes..



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This remains a favourite of mine.
Classic Obasanjo
How do you meet ex President OBJ?
With a smile (and your tongue FIRMLY in your cheek)



Someone once told me I could talk my way out of a paper bag, but OBJ, this ex President of Nigeria is in a league of his own...an absolute Don.
Teach me teacher... and I'll have the keys to the kingdom
'Steve...did he mention Obassanjoooooooooour..' lol!

K - Man - Uman Lapa

Wednesday 10 October 2018

African First Ladies

Sometimes I feel for them o.

Being married to a man who becomes President must come with some trials in addition to the benefits.
But Janet Museveni.
Janet Janet Janet. 1st lady of Uganda, how I feel for her on this



Husbands eh, why don't they listen?. Try anyway... talk to your husband Janet.
Did anyone else see the clip of the president spitting into a tissue in public, at a Press conference?..on the world stage?.



I'm sure she can't have been too pleased about that

The look of love..heehee



Yuck! Yuck! Yuck!

Where is the Presidential decorum?
Putting aside Bobby Wine....If that doesn't cost him a few votes from the ladies I don't know what will




Anyway... dinner time? :)

Let's Talk Mental Health

Today has marked World Mental Health Day

There remains a stigma attached to poor mental health in African Caribbean communities, and despite the fact that one in four people across the board will experience poor mental health at some point in their lives, it remains something we rarely talk about.



"According to mentalhealth.org, African-Caribbean people in the UK are three to five times more likely to be diagnosed and admitted to hospital for schizophrenia, compared to other ethnic groups. According to the 2014 Survey of Mental Health and Wellbeing by the  Adult Psychiatric Morbidity Survey, white British people were the ethnic group most likely to report receiving treatment compared with around 7 per cent of people in minority ethnic groups (including White non-British). Black adults had the lowest treatment rate, at 6.2 per cent".[click for more]



A report in 2010 stated that 'the effects of social disadvantage, such as high unemployment, poor housing and experiences of racial discrimination, are considered to negatively impact the mental health of African-Caribbeans', yet despite that, remain the least likely to seek help.

Within African Caribbean communities mental health is often misunderstood, added to that, a distrust of government services, African Caribbean communities have tended more towards self reliance, inward looking, and often dismiss issues with phrases such as 'sort yourself out', 'be a man' or 'man up' (if you're a man) or simply, 'get over it'.
Some however, may turn to the church, whilst others may even see issues as a result of witchcraft.



Yet plainly put, it's ok to talk.
To encourage our men to talk when pressures become overwhelming, and see poor mental health, not as a weakness, but increasingly an outcome of our modern stressful times.
Understand that women do need to talk, without the dismissive trope of 'nagging woman'

Rephrasing mental health certainly helps, so words such as 'stressed' are understood by men, and emotional well being connects well with women.

Regardless, as we recognise World Mental Health Day, let us practice being kinder, to ourselves... and to each other x

Saturday 6 October 2018

Sound Sultan - Naija Jungle

Boubacar Traoré & Ali Farka Touré - Duna Ma Yelema &Habib Koite and Bamada.



KANDIA KORA - La Guinée Guinè

Weekend Wow Factor: On Love



Congratulations to a man I admire so much
Dr Denis Mukwege

If you don't of him, he is the founder director of the Panzi Foundation, whose work on repairing women who have experienced rape and serious sexual assaults in the DRC, has earned him the Nobel Peace Prize 2018.



I don't think any of us can really image the horrors that these women have experienced, amidst a war that seemingly has no end.
This is a man who has dedicated much of his life to repairing and restoring these women, to enable them to begin to rebuild their lives, and to live.

This to me is what a ladies man is. A man who truly loves and respects women.
A lady's man is not a playboy.
No, a ladies man, is a man like Dr Mukwege.

Congrats to Nadia also..


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There is a meme going around of a woman wearing what looks like a very cheap engagement ring. The question posed to us women is; 'if a man presents you with this would you say yes?'.
90% of comments are from men who say that, this is why men won't commit blah blah, but if they stopped to read the comments from the women they would have noticed the 90% of them said simply - yes.
You see, when a truly woman loves, she loves.
What she really wants is his time, his love, his commitment and his protection.
No one can live without money in today's society ( money is sweet o ) but men are mistaken if they believe that it is all a woman wants.

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Holy Moly Beyonce's mum, steady on :).
I've watched this a few times and I have to say that when a woman has been hurt in the past and is still healing, it's not an easy ride.
The look on his face here is priceless..



Are women looking for Mr Perfect? I don't think so
Women (and men) have long since known that 'one man's meat is another man's poison'. perfection subjective, perfection no exist.
Women want someone who is just right for them, someone who tries, who is honest and kind, but mostly someone whose love is felt, and whose love is genuine.



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I've watched episodes of this back to back over the past few days
90day fiance Nigerian style.
It's funny, gross, entertaining, interesting.. kinda sad too
Watch one and I bet you'll want more too!...



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One of the worst things you can do when raising a little girl is to deny her her voice.
I say a little girl because it is often not the same for boys. Sometimes it is but often it isn't.
Lets raise our boys to be more tender, and our girls to be confident.

In my Che outfit..

Sunday 30 September 2018

Happy Birthday X



I've had a wonderful birthday. Both myself and my daughter. Early breakfast with my son and his girlfriend, then my children done great and gave me a lovely day of shopping.. please don't get me going Ti, he finally said enough...!lol!

Not before picking a cute jumpsuit.
Ti said he had to get Nai her gift before he spent all the money on me and my legs..
Ok o.

Me and my daughter








I love my children so much I really enjoy my time with them

Today also marked the day I lost a good friend.
A singer and much loved DJ
My studio pal from MCS Records days
Sandeeno
RIP Sandeeno. I'm so sorry. I'm still in shock.
Will miss you x

Saturday 29 September 2018

Just a Dawna Day ft music from Burna Boy

I laughed so much at my 1st attempt at tying my headscarf.(hijab) and if you saw me you probably would too!
Still, this was my 2nd attempt, and I like it, I think it looks quite cute and if I'm able to rock it over the winter bingo!... winter will be a breeze ( no pun intended)

I'm usually able to tie various styles and enjoy trying different and new ways that will suit my face. My face is oval I think, some people say heart shaped, so most look ok, although some better than others
Do you like it?
My mum would say I need more work to do:)



Weekend WOW Factor: How To Stop A Revolution

Lsat night I had a few thoughts on the $60billion loans from China to Africa.
These thoughts actually seem to come out of nowhere as I was doing something totally. unrelated!.

I wondered if there were other reasons for the acceptance of these loans other than development.
I thought about the recent political uprisings across the continent, such as in Uganda.
'Perhaps leaders were nervous after all',I thought.
What if the strategy included though such as these?...
'Perhaps if in hearings of these loans the people would no longer see a need for an uprising'.
why challenge a government if they are working to improve our lives?



With more money, leaders will be able to pursued the people, that the government are indeed skilled enough to obtain international assistance, in addition to more funds to purchase more votes.
Uprisings occur when discontent reaches a critical mass.
To break down the critical mass with the promise of more wealth and a better life, is a strategy that works.
So perhaps our leaders are not as clueless as one may have believed.

We all know that if we have an issue in our own lives that no-one else can relate to it's often difficult to gain the understanding or empathy of another

Therefore becoming so isolated that eventually you decide that perhaps the issue is not political or unjust, but a personal subjective experience.
just a thought.



Thursday 27 September 2018

Colonizing Africa

Corruption is eating Africa, and with China's on-going investment and loans, there appears to be little incentive to tackle the money lost to corruption which could be used for local development and services for the people.

China's pledged $60billion investment across Africa is a potentially troubling debt trap that may see Africa lose control of the independence they fought so hard for.

Zambia's recent default on some loans has seen them lose control of their major broadcasting company, and despite being told there are no strings attached to these recent loans, it is hugely unlikely that this is 'free money'
If you consider the amount of money stollen from national budgets, it begs to reason that without high levels of corruption there would be little need for such heavy borrowing.
China benefits from Africa's corruption and lack of stability.

So, as leaders continue to siphon money for themselves and their families, or fail to tackle those who do, the majority citizens will be left to feel the impact
Local people are yet to be skilled up or employed in the new developments and as a result will watch as spectators unable to participate.
It does not appear that African leaders are insisting on the contractual inclusion of local people with regards to employment, and most developments therefore are staffed by Chinese workers.

Yet we can we blame china? . they have spotted an opportunity on the ground. If or leaders despite years of independence fail to spot them, what can we say.



It's an emerging situation, an interesting one at that. Politically, citizens across Africa are tired with the status quo leadership. What would happen if emerging new leaders on full analysis of these deals discover and decide they are weighed heavily again them, and simply refuse to pay?.
If leaders are serious about eradicating poverty and investing in new developments they would start from within and tackle the money lost to corruption.
They would not wait on Chinas investment.
It's certainly a carrot and stick situation, with China pleading to wipe out debt for poorer countries, and the promise of wonderful new developments, therefore it's not hard to see the lure. But it wouldn't be the 1st time Africa payed a heavy price for shiny new things.










Friday 21 September 2018

My last day at work..

Today was my last day at work.
I had an amazing day, in fact it was one of the best days I've had there.
Such a rollercoaster of emotions, and looking back, its been a time where I learnt a great deal, and many lifelong lessons.
No other job has taken me to the emotional depths I experienced and I'm so grateful.
I'm really going to miss them all, and I wish them all the very best as they continue to develop, as individuals , and as a unit.
I've made some good friends there, and I realised again, just how special it is when you are able to embrace the beauty in others.
It took me almost 2yrs to get there, but I finally did.
I made it through!.

The gifts I received were awesome, and just perfect for me. They showed me so much love today, and for that, I'm truly grateful, and it's with that spirit of gratitude that I embark on my new role.

A wonderful run up to my birthday.



chocolate covered, strawberries and flowers in my favourite colour.. yellow. Courtesy of Givtd by Nancy









Tuesday 18 September 2018

Becca - HW3 Ft Bisa Kdei

The Outsider (L’Étranger) - A Review

I do enjoy a review.
It's pretty easy to review something you've enjoyed.. much harder if something fails to deliver what you hoped for
This is one of those times.

I'll start with the positives

One highlight was the fact that Ben Okri was in attendance, standing tall at the door it was nice to see hime there.
The stage management was stylish and slick in its raw simplicity, and the stage lighting wonderfully effective.
I had fun, but to be honest the play itself... was a bit of a bore from start to finish.
I understand why Ben felt that the Coronet was an ideal setting for his adaptation, but as I tried to squeeze 33inch legs.. ok.. 32, behind the tiny space In front of the seat... I had to disagree.

As my knees jammed against the seat in front, I did my best to block out my tingling nerve endings and focus on the play.

A play which was too long, with a narrative too slow.

The protagonist was droll. His voice failed to capture the real essence intended... which was a feeling of 'emptiness... un-belonging...un-knowing'
The actor did well to keep that going all night to be fair :).

I was jolted awake mid way when the play reached a crushendo... the sound of gunshot.(had i been transported to Croydon??..nope, phew...we were still in 'Algeria')
Then, realising a long drawn out court hearing was to ensue in the 2nd half, ... my legs twitched again... I stood up.. stretched, sat back down, then dozed.
lol!

Lord have mercy.
This. play was touted as a existential story , one which would have us leaving with many questions.
Yet the only question I really left with, other than 'are the trains still running' was.... 'I wonder what Ben made of it... and is he still awake back there!



Don't just take my word for it...(Ben is a don after all) if your legs aren't as long ...go see for yourself... perhaps I missed something





Heading home, I said to myself.. huh.. I was hoping to witness an existential crisis... then I thought.. Dawna... you are the existential crisis lol

The Outsider (L’Étranger), is showing at The Print Room at the Coronet

Sunday 16 September 2018

Silence

Today I'm silent.
Other than my laptop, (and phone) there are no other devices on. My window is open, with only a faint sound of traffic, an airplane in the sky somewhere, heading to an unknown destination, and the on/off voices of neighbours, and other than that, it's pretty still.



It won't last, as I'm due elsewhere tonight, but right now this is it.
I haven't been this silent in a very long while.
I haven't stopped.

Now I'm still, I realise

I'm alone with my thoughts, perhaps too many to mention, but can be summarised as...experiences.

I faced a disappointment with someone I considered a friend back in january, which had me evaluate all friendships
I'm actually quite careful, and prefer small meaningful relationships, over large numbers.
'inner circle' I think it's called

Well, I didn't say anything to this particular person, but every so often I reflect on it. We weren't that close anyway, so maybe that's why.

As much as I love music, silence is also a beautiful sound.
There is no-one to ask me for anything, critique or complain about anything or want my attention.
There's no noise
For the 1st time in a long time... I've the house to myself.

Over the coming weeks the plan is to clear out my wardrobe, re-decorate my bedroom, and turf the lawn
It's a plan.
but for now, It's just me and me x


Enjoy your day

Weekend WOW Factor: Personal Development, (and leaving my 40's)

Now I know I need to change, do better, be better.
I've spent many years taking my gifts and abilities for granted, not sure why but on reflection I think it's when things come naturally to us, rather.. to me , we ( I ) often don't notice them.
For us.. it's a normal everyday thing

Until you meet someone for whom it's not.

There are things I've been aware of for some time. I know for example that I feel at my best when I I'm able to make a positive contribution, as I care deeply, about many things, therefore to hold back on those passions causes me to feel anxious, uneasy, unaligned. ( A Librans worst nightmare!)

I also know that I need to engage in creative endeavours. I'm at home there.
I could go on, to talk about love and music, people... but my main observation, is that I simply haven't done enough, of what makes me tick.
I've put things down, pushed things aside, neglected some things, and simply ignored others
Been a bit of a wanderer, and not acted purposefully enough.

When I act with purpose (on purpose) things do change, when I adopt a laissez-faire attitude things feel less meaningful, less colourful, and less fulfilling.
Ive been lazy.
Sure I worked hard, I've studied, and I've done and achieved many things, but if I weigh what I've done against my own abilities or self expectations, they are a small fraction of what I'm capable of
We are all capable of great things, and there are many reasons why we often don't do them


I've had bouts of anxiety throughout the year, which in the grander scale isn't uncommon, but it can be debilitating or even, disheartening.
We are gloriously and fearfully made, not made to be fearful

This year has been a year of refection in many ways. At the end of the month I will be 50. That's a big number for a small girl right?, but I know, more than anything, despite messing up here and there, along the way, getting things wrong etc, I have also got some things right.
So I will avoid the tendency to beat up on myself for being human and just accept responsibility for my mistakes, as I move forward in a positive way.

I'm not necesarily where I wanted to be, or even expected to be at this point, but can't complain, as I've not pursued purposefully, enough.
I've overthought things, turned left and right gone up and down, like a waving arrow, but even a wavering arrow can hit the target with enough momentum.
Yes, a wavering arrow with moment and force becomes straighter at the approach.

I feel young for my age, yet I've come to embrace the beauty in that, and in my naievity.
I'm learning to be content with my looks and who I'm becoming.

More work is required in managing my emotions, and my thoughts!, in the knowledge that our thoughts shape our world
Our thoughts are our powers... our superpowers.
Collective thought shapes families, communities, nations.

My physical library tells a story of my parts of my life journey..of where I've been. Less required is the physical as we can read so much online, but there's a special feeling I get when holding a book.

*parts of my 'library'











Here's an interesting ( or uninteresting) note
Other than the fact that Walter Mosely is one of my favourite writers....
It's taken me 49 years to stop biting my nails. It's a bad habit which I now recognise as something I do when anxious. I'm less anxious, and hey presto, no nail biting!.
So my aim is to tackle vices/bad habits and re-embrace those that are good.

This week in the run up to my birthday week, I end one job, to begin another. It feels right... like that wavering arrow straightening out.
So ironically as I move forward I also need to head back, press re-set perhaps.

My intention is to be a blessing wherever I go, but more importantly , to be happy, balanced, and in alignment with my truer self. For when I am, my light shines brighter, and the strength of my love, for myself and others, is more evident.

Anyway, although old, this video is a gem
It's taken me two days to get through it , but I recommend watching. Jim Rohn on Personal Development.