It’s said that Librans tend to be very indecisive people, unable to make a decision, with a predisposition to sit on the fence.. a-lot. From my own perspective I think there may be some truth to that (even that statement is quite non committal). However, I’m much better than I used to be. In fact I can make decisions very quickly now... Sometimes.
It’s also often said that Librans are lovers of partnerships, live for relationships, beautiful elegant things, and adore harmony. Apparently, we can be charming, if a little flighty, diplomatic, lazy, intelligent, romantic, too easy going, and shallow.
Looking as I did at the range of character and personality traits the list is very long indeed, but I can relate to most.
Star signs interest me in that people do (in my opinion) appear to have the traits their star signs suggest (When I look it up). What I don’t agree with so much is when it’s stated that a particular star sign cannot get along with another. I think it’s more about understanding an individual and working with what you've got, learning about yourself, what works for you and what doesn't. Caring enough perhaps, to recognise what make another person tick... or not... also helps.
Still, I'm a star sign novice compared to others I know.
I get along with, and often feel an affinity with other Librans in the main. I find them funny and creative, chatty (at times) and emotional (often wearing their heart on their sleeve) even though they try to hide it!...but not always... as we can also be annoying.
That’s the thing about star signs... we can... all of us... express any of those traits at any time. What I wonder is what has more influence... our star sign? ..or our upbringing /conditioning/environment.
Anyway
This post really wasn't intended to be about star signs. I really wanted to talk about Joe.
Joe’s star sign is Cancer. That really means nothing to me, (shallow)... all I know is he sings some really lovely songs, and is pretty much my favourite Rnb singer..
Saturday, 29 September 2012
Spoonful of sugar
Needed a night out, take in some live music.. Teedra was just the ticket.. great band.. supporting artist Noel Gourdin was pretty cool too.
Enjoy. Happy Saturday
Enjoy. Happy Saturday
Friday, 28 September 2012
Pre birthday blues
I’m not in a good mood today.
By far I’m more fed up than in a ‘bad’ mood... more like sad mood. I woke up and it felt extremely cold... it was cold... despite my duvet... despite my bears.
Same old same old may sum up my mood, in that I’m tired of the same old same old.
Whether that be thought, word, or action.
It’s approaching winter, and like the winter before it, I’m beginning to get the feeling of deja vous. I love the sights and sounds, even the movies...but I fucking hate Christmas.
There.. I said it.
By far I’m more fed up than in a ‘bad’ mood... more like sad mood. I woke up and it felt extremely cold... it was cold... despite my duvet... despite my bears.
Same old same old may sum up my mood, in that I’m tired of the same old same old.
Whether that be thought, word, or action.
It’s approaching winter, and like the winter before it, I’m beginning to get the feeling of deja vous. I love the sights and sounds, even the movies...but I fucking hate Christmas.
There.. I said it.
Thursday, 27 September 2012
Mirror me?
It’s easy sometimes to see in others the things we don’t like about ourselves. Things that wind us up 'big time', but ultimately give us an opportunity to ‘fix’ ourselves, or make changes we may really need to make within ourselves.
It reminds me of that old saying.. do onto others..ect.
We are often a mirror to each other, perhaps not always, but sometimes.
I have noticed that when I try to avoid dealing with something it tends to come back to me.. so I’m trying to deal with things a little more promptly, face things a little more, and procrastinate less.. 'deal with' things including those negative emotions that can be a little unappealing, or unnerving.. things that may make us feel a little exposed or vulnerable.
However, I think that if we recognise something in another which we don’t quite like or enjoy, it doesn’t mean that we necessarily have the same issue ( it’s not as straight forward as that) .. I think it may mean that we need to develop an aspect of ourselves, which could be courage, assertiveness, self esteem/belief, or compassion... it really depends... the list is probably endless.
I think it’s only by being honest, and true to ourselves will we really know what the lesson is... an until we get it.. It may simply return ...over ... and over.
It reminds me of that old saying.. do onto others..ect.
We are often a mirror to each other, perhaps not always, but sometimes.
I have noticed that when I try to avoid dealing with something it tends to come back to me.. so I’m trying to deal with things a little more promptly, face things a little more, and procrastinate less.. 'deal with' things including those negative emotions that can be a little unappealing, or unnerving.. things that may make us feel a little exposed or vulnerable.
However, I think that if we recognise something in another which we don’t quite like or enjoy, it doesn’t mean that we necessarily have the same issue ( it’s not as straight forward as that) .. I think it may mean that we need to develop an aspect of ourselves, which could be courage, assertiveness, self esteem/belief, or compassion... it really depends... the list is probably endless.
I think it’s only by being honest, and true to ourselves will we really know what the lesson is... an until we get it.. It may simply return ...over ... and over.
Sunday, 23 September 2012
Is my ego bigger than my bank balance?
I was raised with the belief I was the best thing since sliced bread. (Not in an arrogant way.. just a matter of fact way really.. I mean .. of course right, why not?)
Must have been.
I believe it came mainly from my dad, although I’m sure my mum also...although my mum is a very...('never think yourself better than anyone else') kind of person.. (judge not unless you walk a mile in their shoes')... etc)
Anyway...Observing them, I noticed that they never envied anyone, anything, were self sustaining, content attractive people.
Looking back, I’d say my parents didn’t really have much money, yet ( other than a red Chopper bike) I never really wanted for anything, and if they were in fact short of funds.. It didn't appear to have much impact. I remember the metre man,the paraffin man and green shield stamps.. but to a child (at least to me) back then those things were exciting.
I had my parents, brothers, sister, and neighbourhood friends.
My sister read to me a lot, and sometimes my dad.
So I have never equated money, to happiness, or self worth.
If I do so now, its because of societal pressure ( a shift in the consciousness of the many)
Great quality perhaps?...hmm yes... but it’s not all holy.
You see.. fact is..having an ego bigger than your bank balance is thwart with problems.
I live as though I have an unlimited supply, although I’ve been told I live a very frugal life.
My mother called me a WAG a few weeks back (not sure she realises its a 'ballers wife or girlfriend and I aint dating no footballer!)and said i'd never change.
So I obviously give her the impression I’m too lavish...and give another the impression I’m not lavish enough
Yet I’m neither... possibly now.. closer to the latter. ( my mother perhaps thinking of a previous time)
I think as I said earlier, because (in my mind anyway) my self worth is not attached to my financial wealth so to speak, I’m actually quite happy most of the time, until reality bites, I face a problem. or someone tells me I should be as miserable as fuck.
I have a relatively strong inner, core (although permeable at times.. which I like)
But as my ‘Princess’ lifestyle shifts further and further into the distance the question is... will my ego notice?.
Must have been.
I believe it came mainly from my dad, although I’m sure my mum also...although my mum is a very...('never think yourself better than anyone else') kind of person.. (judge not unless you walk a mile in their shoes')... etc)
Anyway...Observing them, I noticed that they never envied anyone, anything, were self sustaining, content attractive people.
Looking back, I’d say my parents didn’t really have much money, yet ( other than a red Chopper bike) I never really wanted for anything, and if they were in fact short of funds.. It didn't appear to have much impact. I remember the metre man,the paraffin man and green shield stamps.. but to a child (at least to me) back then those things were exciting.
I had my parents, brothers, sister, and neighbourhood friends.
My sister read to me a lot, and sometimes my dad.
So I have never equated money, to happiness, or self worth.
If I do so now, its because of societal pressure ( a shift in the consciousness of the many)
Great quality perhaps?...hmm yes... but it’s not all holy.
You see.. fact is..having an ego bigger than your bank balance is thwart with problems.
I live as though I have an unlimited supply, although I’ve been told I live a very frugal life.
My mother called me a WAG a few weeks back (not sure she realises its a 'ballers wife or girlfriend and I aint dating no footballer!)and said i'd never change.
So I obviously give her the impression I’m too lavish...and give another the impression I’m not lavish enough
Yet I’m neither... possibly now.. closer to the latter. ( my mother perhaps thinking of a previous time)
I think as I said earlier, because (in my mind anyway) my self worth is not attached to my financial wealth so to speak, I’m actually quite happy most of the time, until reality bites, I face a problem. or someone tells me I should be as miserable as fuck.
I have a relatively strong inner, core (although permeable at times.. which I like)
But as my ‘Princess’ lifestyle shifts further and further into the distance the question is... will my ego notice?.
Working things out on the page..
The temptation to live in the past, or the future, tends to happen if the present doesn’t seem to crack up to much.
Seen as a stop gap in many ways, from that viewpoint, we overlook the fact that the present always becomes the past, and ironically, when we look back its often with fondness.
So why cant we appreciate things at the time we experience them?
Sure.. living in the now can be okay. In fact, it may be the best way to get by, but it’s sometimes hard to do because we are intellectual and emotional beings,an amalgamation of our past experiences...our hopes or future aspirations.
Living in the now, would mean having to be honest with yourself about a great many things, and accepting and understanding ‘the now’.
Okay...we’re often told that living in the now is acceptance, and I was once told that if you accept something you should never complain about it, yet our history is littered with stories of people who refused to accept a situation and brought about change... improvements to their lives if you will ( and the lives of others). Their ‘now’, was to fight for a better future...total un-acceptance of what they had, in the knowledge that they had a right to, and as human beings deserved more. I guess I’m thinking about the civil rights era ( and similar struggles) But it’s applies to much more does it not?
So maybe its not really about acceptance so much as living in truth.
Living in truth means knowing and accepting who you are... perhaps even an alignment of thought and action.. Consistency.
The reason it can be a struggle is because we ( as social beings with an innate desire to connect to others) want to be liked, loved, appreciated, and accepted ( by individuals or wider society) and in order to achieve that (for some not all) it may mean compromising, or perhaps hiding, pretending, or moulding ourselves to fit the shape which we feel may best acquire or sustain, that which we crave. We also tend to be preservationists, yet quite selfish.. (war is testimony to that)
This approach may work, but we risk or happiness, and it’s not real..
I know what it’s like to not be accepted... to be criticized.. e.g.. too tall.. too opinionated, blah blah, so .. whilst I love my height, I remember going quiet for a while, until I was able to recognise that I am what i am, and that may not suit some, but suits me fine.
So at least now when I’m quiet, its because I’m in thought.. or just simply want to be. There still exists within me a desire to be accepted for who I am, ( which is different from a desire for acceptance)
For others to see what I see.. and to share what I know.. think, or feel... which for me, is more about connecting
All of this is an ongoing process, as we discover new things about ourselves all the time
Happy SMS x
Seen as a stop gap in many ways, from that viewpoint, we overlook the fact that the present always becomes the past, and ironically, when we look back its often with fondness.
So why cant we appreciate things at the time we experience them?
Sure.. living in the now can be okay. In fact, it may be the best way to get by, but it’s sometimes hard to do because we are intellectual and emotional beings,an amalgamation of our past experiences...our hopes or future aspirations.
Living in the now, would mean having to be honest with yourself about a great many things, and accepting and understanding ‘the now’.
Okay...we’re often told that living in the now is acceptance, and I was once told that if you accept something you should never complain about it, yet our history is littered with stories of people who refused to accept a situation and brought about change... improvements to their lives if you will ( and the lives of others). Their ‘now’, was to fight for a better future...total un-acceptance of what they had, in the knowledge that they had a right to, and as human beings deserved more. I guess I’m thinking about the civil rights era ( and similar struggles) But it’s applies to much more does it not?
So maybe its not really about acceptance so much as living in truth.
Living in truth means knowing and accepting who you are... perhaps even an alignment of thought and action.. Consistency.
The reason it can be a struggle is because we ( as social beings with an innate desire to connect to others) want to be liked, loved, appreciated, and accepted ( by individuals or wider society) and in order to achieve that (for some not all) it may mean compromising, or perhaps hiding, pretending, or moulding ourselves to fit the shape which we feel may best acquire or sustain, that which we crave. We also tend to be preservationists, yet quite selfish.. (war is testimony to that)
This approach may work, but we risk or happiness, and it’s not real..
I know what it’s like to not be accepted... to be criticized.. e.g.. too tall.. too opinionated, blah blah, so .. whilst I love my height, I remember going quiet for a while, until I was able to recognise that I am what i am, and that may not suit some, but suits me fine.
So at least now when I’m quiet, its because I’m in thought.. or just simply want to be. There still exists within me a desire to be accepted for who I am, ( which is different from a desire for acceptance)
For others to see what I see.. and to share what I know.. think, or feel... which for me, is more about connecting
All of this is an ongoing process, as we discover new things about ourselves all the time
Happy SMS x
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