Openness scares us.
It can feel unpleasant and uneasy... weird..
Yet ironically so can.. not being open
Openness can bring people together... yet it can also divide, so it’s a difficult concept...not always easy to gage right.
My feeling is divisions... develop in a trust vacuum.
Honesty can help to build trust... and it’s not easy to be honest and conceal things at the same time.
But all actions should really be rooted in love in order to achieve a successful outcome
It really is the answer to most if not all things
So why does openness scare us so much?
In our relationships with our partners we expect it, require it, demand it, argue over it. We acknowledge its importance to build a level of closeness.. do we not?
So, do we fear closeness also?
Perhaps..
I’m not so sure. I know we need it.
WE all need closeness whats the point of being with somone but you don't really know THEM??????
ReplyDeleteThe trust vacuum and openness!!!...they really ought to come hand in hand right but most often they DON'T. Unfortunately sometimes you need to conceal certain things to protect yourself or perhaps for the other person's sake be it your partner or friend.
Honesty and openness should be very close friends because without the two don't bother get in a relationship with that man or woman. I don't think we fear clossness but more the result of what getting too close to someone could mean.
vunerability and the consequences of being too close and open to someone, they get to know your weakness as well as your strenghts. In most cases this is supposed to allow the other person to feel who you are as a person but instead some use this to manipulate, control and bully you if they WANT. Shouldn't be that way but SHITEEEE it happens out there.
Unfortunately all our actions aren't rooted in love but for the love of selfishness and egos we manifest a different persona when the word LOVE comes into play. Sometimes we love too much and too hard and to our own detriment.
Some people just don't appreciate what they have until you have said GOODBYE and walked out of their life.
openness is overrated, god and my balls is all i need. i prefer measured trust
ReplyDeleteMr C. You need god and your balls??..
ReplyDeletewhy god.. and why your balls? Why not your eyes, or hands.. :)
What if gods message to you was to be open. would you 'need' god then?
measured trust sounds a little Machiavellian.. yet smart.
BC- have you ever read the art of war?
ReplyDeletecheck it out.. see what you think. I have to seek out my copy and give it another once over.
here's a snippet.
All warfare is based on deception
When we are able to attack we must seem unable
When using our forces we must seem inactive
When we are near , we must make the enemy believe we are far away
When far away... we must make him believe we are near.
Be open and die (that's my addition)
Or be open.. to live.