Tuesday 19 January 2016

Can you choose who to love?

It's often said that you can't choose who you love.

Most of us are fortunate enough to be able to choose what we eat, what we wear, our homes, our cars...and our friends. So why in some cases would some of those very same people say... 'we cant choose who we love'

One view is...Surely we can.... and we do
We take inventory of the attributes, we recognise whether or not there is shared chemistry and bingo... a choice has been made.
You either like this person.. or you do not.
Love is a choice... and as a choice, is often conditional

Another other view is.... surely we cannot

Those of that view may state that love cannot be constrained.. the heart wants what it wants. At a deeper level.. some say that souls-recognise- souls, and the rational mind is at a loss to control the souls desire... or destiny.
The rational mind has no power... over love.

Love as a choice.. is a gift, from one to another.. or.. to others
(A good example of non romantic love as a choice is perhaps charity work)

Yet, love devoid of 'conscious choice' is possibly the purest form of love. 'Free'...'unconditional', yet perhaps naive, and high risk
yes.. the purest can often be the most difficult..

love pliable as it is...can mutate.. it tends to, and is never static, but always in motion. The conditional can become unconditional and visa versa
Yet whatever the view...both... can reap great rewards...

Question... can you love unconditionally?

Good morning x

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